The Journey Of Love

At a point of time, due to certain things that happened in my life, I became cynical about relationships. Since then, I have tried to analyze the human relationships, how they work, what makes them work , how they are broken etc.

From my analysis, I came to know that a relationship especially love goes through 3 phases.

1st phase: The first phase is the phase of mutual admiration. This is the stage in which the two people in the relationship only tend to look at the positives in each other. The other person seems perfect to you. You can hardly find any fault with him/her. This phase may last for weeks, months or even years based on the people in the relationship and the situations.

2nd phase: This is the phase when things start to go in the negative direction. You start focusing on the negatives of the other person. The negatives you notice in the other person may not actually be that bad but they can just be some things which you dont like. These negatives were also present during the 1st phase but you didnt focus much on them bcoz you were in awe of his/her positive side so much. Irritations, small meaningless fights would become the routine in this phase.

3rd phase : The status of the relationship in this phase depends on how long the 2nd phase lasts. After the 2nd phase, if you feel that you cant overlook the negatives in your partner then the relationship wouldnt last long. On the other hand, if you work hard on your relationship, accepting your partner for whatever he/she is, then there would be a higher success rate for that relationship.

I have seen relationships which last for years in the 1st stage, relationships which end immediately after the 2nd phase and relationships which keep toggling between the 2nd and 3rd phases. I feel that the sooner a relationship enters the 2nd phase and comes out of it, the better it is for both the people in the relationship. Because it doesn't make sense in wasting years in the 1st phase. People who have successfully overcome the second phase have a greater chance of staying in the relationship for a longer time. But as the relationship ages, one happens to take his/her partner for granted much to his/her discomfort. This might have a negative impact on the relationship. So one needs to take care of these things too. Its always important to keep the romance alive in a relationship.

Sometimes you may face rough weather in a relationship just because of the situations and without any mistake of either persons. Then the future of the relationship depends on the maturity level of both the people in the relationship and how they handle the situations.

Relationship is a journey, you have both good times and bad times, one needs to work on it in the bad times for it to thrive, coz all it takes is a small misunderstanding to ruin a relationship built on trust for years.